Thanking your groomsmen the right way

Twenty years ago the idea of presenting a gift to your groomsmen, father and father of the bride on your special day was unheralded, in fact, the majority of blokes would have scoffed at the notion.

The last ten or so years however, has seen a large shift in men's attitudes. So much so, that it is now almost expected of the groom to purchase something for those closest to him and of course the brides fathers as a kind of, 'sorry i'm sleeping with your daughter' gesture. 

But why is it so important to give someone a gift on YOUR day and what is appropriate? We men certainly don't put a lot of thought into this kind of thing growing up and it isn't until we've been told by a certain someone (probably your mother/mother-in-law-to-be) that we have any idea what is expected of us on the big day. 

Here are some thoughts on how to avoid a gigantic c*ck up on your special day.

If you are going to buy a present for your groomsmen and fathers, why not make it something they are going to use? We've all been handed our fair share of flasks, but let's face it, as soon as everyone goes home, it's getting tossed in the bottom of a box, buried deep in the back of your shed. It is really only useful for the wedding photos to add a bit of blokeyness. But we can do better than that. 

If you are going to purchase your grooms outfits, which is more likely than not the case, why not present them the remaining attire in a gift box? Perhaps with a little note (if you are so inclined) and a cigar inside? It still adds a certain charm to the whole day and maintains a certain blokey aspect and you don't have to worry about spending additional money on those money sucking leeches. All the more money for the bar, ahem.... your back pocket.

Then you and the boys can sit back and suck on those big, fat cigars to freshen your breathe before the most important kiss of your life. Sounds pretty damn great to me. 

So, if you know a bloke who has popped the question, maybe you should do him a favour and have him read this blog. It might just help him make the right decision before the big day.